What Did You Say?

Growing up in a Christian family I rarely, if ever, heard profanity.  Expletives were often replaced with “doggone it” “for Pete’s Sake,” or “that honks me off”.  I was taught at an early age not to use “ugly” or vulgar words.

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Apparently I was a good student of what not to say growing up, because even now there are words I just cannot incorporate into conversation.  A certain word that easily flows off of the tongues of my grandchildren makes me cringe.  Before you think poorly of my sweet grands, it is not a horrible word.  Just one for a bodily function that my family never deemed proper for a young lady or gentleman to use.

When I was young television banned the use of four letter foul words and taking the Lord’s name in vain.  There was no cable and Prime Time was a lot more prim and proper.  Comparing shows we watched to those on now is like comparing soda pop and hard liquor.  It is astounding how low the regulations are now.

I can remember a time when men watched their words around ladies.  When a “bad” word slipped out it was quickly followed by an apology.  That is called respect.  Men respected themselves and women.

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So what exactly is the point in using cuss words?  Your sentence should still hold the same meaning.  You on the other hand will sound much smarter, kinder, and polished without them.  My grandmother often said a person’s perceived IQ dropped with each cuss word they said.  Makes sense when you think about it.

What does the Bible say about our words?  In Colossians 3:8 it says “But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.”  That sounds very straightforward.  No filthy language should come from your lips.

One of the Ten Commandments, the third one, states clearly “Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain; for the Lord will not hold him guiltless that taketh His name in vain.”  That is not a suggestion but a command.

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So many times I read something on Facebook that I would love to share, but there is a problem.  The message is great, but it contains profanity.  Really?!  A point would have been made without those extra words.  There are some darling shirts, also, until I get down to the last line.  Wham!  An ugly spoils an otherwise nice message.

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How about those shirts that advertise being a Christian and cuss, too?  Hmmm.  Why would anyone want to advertise that? I don’t think that is in scripture.  What is in scripture is “Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.” from Ephesians 5:4.   Listen to what James 3:10 says “Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be.”

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Sure we all slip up.  I do at times and then wince.  Quickly I ask for forgiveness and try my best not to repeat it.  Like everything on this planet though I am a work in progress.  Aren’t you?  I challenge you to eliminate these “ugly” words from your vocabulary.  Teach you children and grandchildren that they do not need them either.  Lead by example.

Most importantly, I urge you not to take the Lord’s name in vain.  Too many people have forgotten it is a sin.  Let’s work together and not just act like Christians, but let’s talk like we should, too.  We can do this.  Are you with me?

 

 

 

Reflections from a Word Nerd

Since I have been young, words have fascinated me.  Numbers do nothing for me, but words are exciting and powerful.  Okay, I will admit to being a word nerd.  Reading, writing, even listening to meaningful lyrics move me and put me in my sweet spot.  Even if you are a numbers person, words affect you.  Some words or phrases bring certain people to mind.

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My dear mother has a quaint way of terming kisses.  Our family doesn’t kiss each other we “give sugar.”  My hubby does not decide or conclude, he “reckons.”  When Dad is sincere about something, he states it “quite frankly.”  Pappaw Reeves was never hindered but “stymied.”  According to him, planets were never just in a straight line but in a “sygyzy.”  My Granddaddy was a Lockmaster at Dam 43 near us and my hubby worked in Engineering in a ship building company.  Many times both men replaced left and right with port and starboard, the nautical and aeronautical terms for left and right, respectively.79193B57-AC0C-44EA-9510-0B1FBE551571

Just think how important they are and moving in weddings.  In our wedding we had the song “Whither Thou Goest” sung.  Just hearing that phrase or the word whither takes me back decades to a church altar where I plighted my troth to my husband.  Isn’t that more romantic than saying at my wedding?  Words can be magical when used correctly and thoughtfully.  They have power to transform and transport.

For me, I love poetic, old fashioned words and Southern phrases.  Women in my family swoon over thing and say “I swan or swanee” because no proper lady should ever say I swear.  We don’t sweat but perspire.  One does not simply hug my Auntie June but must “hug her neck.”  Most importantly, never did I nor have I heard my grandparents, parents or aunts and uncles say what my Grandmother deemed “ugly words.”   Never.

 

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Ugly words or swearing abound in society today.  Using the Lord’s name in vain, cursing, and horrible four letter words are rampant.  Even name-calling seems to be at an all time high.  Tattoos are permanently imprinted on bodies with words that should not be written, spoken or seen.  14BC4EB3-1B26-459A-95DC-A93412EF1357Clothing prominently sports things that are “ugly” and offensive.  Even some “Christians” have attire proudly proclaiming “Yes, I am a Christian and I cuss a lot.”  What?!  So, I wonder how our Father feels about that?  Or if these people consider the example they are setting?  Ugly words take away from a person’s beauty.  They can sting and hurt.

When I think of my Savior there are many words that come to mind.  Beloved is the first and means dearly loved.  Definitely Jesus loves us dearly.  No doubt about that.  Redemption is another one.  It means being saved from sin or evil.  Christ sought us out before we were born and bought us with his blood on the cross.  He paid the entry fee to eternal life for us.  That fee was his own life.  Absolutely, freely given to us in love is our gift of salvation, which means deliverance from harm or destruction.

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Tell me about you?  What words do you relate to people?  Better yet, what words do you think people relate to you?  What if our words appeared on our skin?  Make them pretty words to inspire, bring about happy memories and smiles.  Don’t leave behind ugly words as your impression or influence on this world.  Let your children and grandchildren read “hug my neck” and “give me sugar” or remember you when they hear nice, virtuous, sweet words.  Don’t let #*@$ or worse be your legacy.

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